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Bucfan56    3,679

Tahoe does some weird :censored: to people, dude. It's basically a mini Vegas at cruising altitude. "I'm here to party, take pictures of Emerald Bay, let my hair down at Cabo Wabo for the night, then go home back to my normal life." I wouldn't read into it too much. 

 

Tahoe is actually kind of a terrible place to meet women for many MANY different reasons. I've met some really terrible women in my lifetime, but none of them come even remotely close to the absolute succubuses I've met up at the lake.

 

Not saying your your girl was a succubus, but still. Take it from someone who has FAR too much experience in the Tahoe dating scene. 

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ninersdd    348
26 minutes ago, Bucfan56 said:

Tahoe does some weird :censored: to people, dude. It's basically a mini Vegas at cruising altitude. "I'm here to party, take pictures of Emerald Bay, let my hair down at Cabo Wabo for the night, then go home back to my normal life." I wouldn't read into it too much. 

 

Tahoe is actually kind of a terrible place to meet women for many MANY different reasons. I've met some really terrible women in my lifetime, but none of them come even remotely close to the absolute succubuses I've met up at the lake.

 

Not saying your your girl was a succubus, but still. Take it from someone who has FAR too much experience in the Tahoe dating scene. 

It wasn't South Shore, it was at Incline Village(not sure if your that familiar with there).

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Bucfan56    3,679

Yeah I know Incline. Not as well, but the same standards still basically apply. Any time you get a vacation spot like that you're gonna see some strange things happen. The lake is a weird spot when it comes to social interaction. It felt a lot like living on another planet at times. 

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lopernv    300
On 8/5/2017 at 2:57 AM, ninersdd said:

Well I can say that I have to confess something. I have always had trouble talking to new people, let alone girls(I only have 1 friend that I talk to nowadays). I was diagnosed with autism a couple of years ago, so it made sense that I had issues with that. I am more comfortable usually talking with older guys(like my dads friends in my fantasy league).

Something weird though happened at my family reunion at Tahoe a couple of weeks ago. I'm probably the only one over 18 who hasn't brought a significant other to it(which I haven't cared about). I usually just talk with a few certain people(mostly about sports like the Giants and Warriors, etc). So during our goofy 10 v 10 beach volleyball game(which is silly as it sounds), one of my cousins girlfriends(who I hadn't even met or talked to) randomly smiled at me. I of course didn't think much of it, but then afterward she shook my hand and introduced herself, which again I didn't think much of.   That night, I went to the casino, and was joined by some people, including those 2. After I was done playing she again shook my hand to meet me. She was from Washington, but currently lives in Phoenix. I asked "Are you a Seahawks fan?", to she said she isn't really into sports, but would claim them as her favorite team.(I said I like the Niners and the Cardinals are my #2 team). I also said I have family from Tucson and love the Wildcats. What was weird is after that the conversation continued and I seemingly had very little issues talking to her(about several topics). She paid more attention to me then her boyfriend playing blackjack. She touched my shoulder/arm a few times. Oddly enough I was barely sweating and even shared some personal things with her. I admitted that I don't really have many friends and it was weird for me to be talking to her, to which she thought that I was doing a great job. She had said she enjoyed talking with me when I had to leave the next day. I realized that I actually like her and would like to maybe see her again, but obviously I'm well aware that she's taken(and she doesn't live near me). It just made no sense that she was actually interested in talking to me initially and that I wasn't nervous at all in talking to her.

 

IMO, this scares me. You have initiated contact with someone and because they are acting friendly you are immediately seeing it as a possibility of romantic contact. 

I would strongly advise against screwing with your cousin's relationship and start seeing this as a friendship scenario ASAP.

 

There are plenty of women out there, not taken by a close relative. This screams of a bad idea.

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Rockstar Matt    582

To be fair, it can be difficult at times to understand when a girl is just being friendly or she's showing genuine interest. With time and experience, it does get easier to see the difference, but if someone is rather inexperienced (nothing wrong with that) it's not unreasonable for them to not be able to tell. 

 

With that said, always stay away from any romantic partners of family members. Being friends is perfectly fine, anything more is just asking for trouble. 

 

If I were you niners, maybe I'd just take it as a confidence booster and maybe for the next time you meet someone who perks your interest, you can carry that confidence over into the next one. It sounds kinda cheesy, but it really helps.  

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ninersdd    348
12 minutes ago, Rockstar Matt said:

To be fair, it can be difficult at times to understand when a girl is just being friendly or she's showing genuine interest. With time and experience, it does get easier to see the difference, but if someone is rather inexperienced (nothing wrong with that) it's not unreasonable for them to not be able to tell. 

 

With that said, always stay away from any romantic partners of family members. Being friends is perfectly fine, anything more is just asking for trouble. 

 

If I were you niners, maybe I'd just take it as a confidence booster and maybe for the next time you meet someone who perks your interest, you can carry that confidence over into the next one. It sounds kinda cheesy, but it really helps.  

Agreed. I had absolutely no interest in talking to her at all until she seemed to want to meet me.(Not sure why she did, I did nothing to draw attention to myself). I just thought that I'd be nice and talk for a few minutes, which became much longer, which included her touching me(plus she insisted I hugged her when I said goodbye the next day). It just seemed to be a weird situation all around(maybe Bucfan is right about Tahoe). Like I said to BeerGuy, I have no contact info of her so I can't reach out to her, which is for the best.

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nash61    850
On 6/9/2011 at 11:20 PM, nash61 said:

Okay. I'm going to finally venture in here.

Last summer, I finally started talking with a girl that I had been acquaintances with for a long time, but had never gotten to know. We started talking a lot online, but it was mostly sports and never romantic. We became good friends, but I never developed any feelings for her. (I liked someone else, and she knew that)

Anyway, fast forward to January (I still like someone else). Our churches got together for a youth activity, and we were both really excited to get to hang out. We came to the agreement that we wouldn't sit together for the church service (to avoid starting rumors), but that we would hang out when we went snow tubing after.

Things went exactly as planned, and that's what happened. Except for one little thing. Right as we go to leave, she disappears, so I wait around to say goodbye. She comes up the stairs crying, runs right past me and doesn't say goodbye.

When I get home, I have an email from her saying "we spent too much time together and I felt awkward, we need to take a break for a while."

So that's what we do. Then in March, I email her to tell her to tell her about my new job (hockey job, which she would be thrilled about) and she comes back with "You know what? I hate it when people... never mind" and blocks me. Any times that I've seen her in person since, she hasn't really avoided me, but she hasn't gone out of her way to talk to me.

She graduates high school next week, and I want to email her to congratulate her. Should I? Or should I just act like it's not happening?

Dropping back in here with a couple updates. Spent a long time not talking to this girl, but reconnected in Sept 2015. We became inseperable, Established from the get-go that there is no chance of ever getting together, so there's no pressure or misunderstandings. Started a fitness challenge together in January, and I'm down 50lbs and she's now a gym rat. Happy ending after all. Things will slow down now that I'm dating someone else (see post below), but we both understand that that's necessary.

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nash61    850
On 7/14/2015 at 10:55 AM, nash61 said:

Asked the girl of my dreams out last Monday night, after spending the day with her and having an AMAZING time. She told me she "needed some time to consider it", and friendzoned me a week later (yesterday). Yeahhh... it's gonna be one of those weeks.

(Background, we've been good friends since 16 (going on 6 years), and things finally fell into place to take it to the next level. Guess I was wrong.)

Update on this one... I spent two years in the friendzone, and made it out! We've been dating for two weeks now, and we're both the happiest we've ever been.

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AstroBull21    545
1 hour ago, nash61 said:

Update on this one... I spent two years in the friendzone, and made it out! We've been dating for two weeks now, and we're both the happiest we've ever been.

I dealt with the friend zone for about 9 months, after "dating" for a few months, but my gut told there was something special about this one.  We ended up rekindling our relationship in January 2016, moved in together in August 2016, and got engaged in April 2017. 

 

Everyone says that you'll know it when you meet "the one", and I didn't believe it until I met my fiancée.

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