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  1. So I met this new girl just under 2 months ago and I feel like we really hit it off. We both have really busy work schedules, but we managed to go out a couple of times early on. But then the holidays hit and things kinda went on the backburner as she, then I, basically alternated being on vacation. One top of that, right after the holidays, we both separately got super swamped with work. As a result, I dont think we've physically seen each other in nearly a month. Yet we've been in pretty consistent contact (texts, social media, etc) during this time. We've already compared work schedules, and there really isn't much common free time except maybe at the very end of the month. The problem I'm having is trying to figure out what this is and where, whatever it is, is going. I do feel like there's mutual interest, but we literally cannot seem to find time to see each other to build on it. What would you all do in this situation? P.S. I'm just gonna come out and admit it, but I don't exactly have a line of women waiting to date me. It's not like I'm missing opportunities waiting around on this girl. I'm still going out, meeting new people, putting myself out there, but nothing else is really clicking. That's why I've been okay with this protracted "interested" phase. I just don't know if I'm barking up the wrong tree or if I should try to "define" things sooner than later.
  2. the star logo reminds of this: maybe they can team up and cross-promote with the new Power Rangers movie haha.
  3. Let me preface this with saying that I'm nowhere near the whole marriage/wedding thing yet, but I have entertained the whole "who would I pick as a groomsmen" question recently thanks to one of my friends getting engaged. I'm one of those guys who has a lot of acquaintances and casual friends, but only a handful of close guy friends, and it seems only at any one given time period [eg, during high school, college, work, etc.]. That would potentially make picking out groomsmen tricky as I seem to be in and out of people's lives a lot, instead of being a constant presence. That means I've lost touch with a number of really close guy friends in the past. On the other hand, as they just seem better at keeping in touch, I have a couple of really close platonic female friends who I could potentially see as "groomsmaids." I know that's become a thing nowadays, but I've yet to actually see it at any of the weddings I've been to, and kinda wonder how widely practiced it actually is and if anyone here has done that before?
  4. Been waiting on a package to get delivered, and the one day I'm able to get off early to go claim it at my apartment's front desk, THEY close early. Ugh, this is why I hate the holidays sometimes...
  5. TL;DR: She's not going to date you, and for the sake of your job I would leave it alone and let her go. You're either in or you're out, and it doesn't go both ways. Don't give her the satisfaction of having a friendship outside of being coworkers. Don't fall for that validation bullcrap where you accept being some back-pocket option. Decisively end the relationship, especially in your own mind, and pursue another. Not that I was avoiding her or anything, but after getting over things for the most part, I realized I hadn't seen my coworker at the office in awhile so I tapped into the office gossip out of curiosity. Apparently, her crazy controlling ex came into town like a week ago just to "visit" and she's been essentially "working from home" since (and making herself really scarce). Not sure what happened exactly (I hope it's not anything sinister), but rumors are that she basically shut down emotionally or something to the point that she's barely talking to anybody. I don't really know any of the finer details, but it kinda puts her reasoning for "not being ready to date" into perspective. And kinda scary how some relationships can get that traumatic.
  6. Update about my situation with coworker (see post #3903 on page 196 for more details). Quick rundown: we first went out almost a month ago wherein we spend like 6 hours together on our first date. We agreed on a second date but our work schedule/holidays kept delaying it, but we talked/texted like everyday inbetween (including when she went traveling for her holidays). Anyway, I think everything's going great leading up to what should've been our second date when she outta the blue today texts me that she's not ready for this. Gave the excuse about breaking up with a long term boyfriend right before starting work here and being hit on constantly by other coworkers and not knowing what she wants at this stage of her life/career and just not being ready to date (I dont really believe this sort of excuse in general). Obviously, this doesn't sit well with me. I kinda just stopped texting back, but this just annoys/angers me. I mean, what is a girl getting from tthis when they string a guy along for so long? I mean, I feel like I was reading all the signs appropriately: she constantly texted me nearly everyday for the last month; would reveal personal details about her family (including sharing photos) totally unsolicited, and agreed on a second date even when she had mentioned she had rejected two other coworkers previously. I don't know, it's just this sudden aboutface that has me reeling. I seriously thought this one could've been special. I don't know. I know what I should do (cut off communication and move on). But what do y'all think? What were yall's experiences with a similar situation? (kinda just want some comfort or maybe constructive criticism about this whole crappy situation)
  7. Yeah, it doesnt look so much as mischievous as it does "creepy and pervy," especially with the new winky face. I also like the base idea, but they have to improve it.
  8. I've never been the most articulate with these things, but what phrasing would I use to ask so it's not totally awkward? I imagine being too forward like, "Do you like me?" isn't going to fly. Or does the standard "I had fun last night, do you want to do it again?" imply enough? I honestly dont know.
  9. Just got back from my date with my coworker. Originally planned for dinner and a movie but things kinda took a detour. Dinner ended up lasting 3 hours because we lost track of time talking. As a result, we missed the movie, but ended up going somewhere else and getting some coffee, only to end up talking for another 3 hours. Needless to say, we covered a lot of topics, but it still felt like there was so much more left to touch upon. Ended up dropping her off at her place with a hug before making it home. We lost ourselves in 6 hours of nearly constant conversation. Learned so much about her, and I liked just about everything I heard. The only reservation I had though was what I learned about some of our fellow coworkers: apparently, a number of other guys (including a manager in a relationship) at work have been hitting on her, and some have been taking it borderline too far. As a result, she's been trying to pull away from her group of work friends and trying to start anew. So what's my reservation exactly? Well, mainly, I'm not sure how she sees me. We talked quite a bit about relationships and how a lot of outside friends have been getting married and having kids, et al. We kinda hovered around that subject without really nailing it down. And now I'm wondering/worrying that she may just want to be friends with me b/c of all those other work guys she thought were her friends hitting on her. I dont know, maybe she was tired, but her body language was also pretty neutral: not moving away when I got closer, but also not leaning in. I dont know. It's late and maybe I'm overthinking this. I want to see her again, but how should I go about doing that without seeming too pushy? Again, I want to try and convey my interest in a romantic relationship, and don't want to get "friendzoned," but I'm afraid all she may want is a friend at this time given all the apparent drama at work with the other guys
  10. Haha, yeah, I've heard that advice before, but tbh, I really don't have many other options or opportunities. I moved to a mid-sized "country" town surrounded by a whole lot of nothing for work. The dating pool outside of my coworkers isnt very deep. Hell, it's hard enough to even meet people in a different department in the same company. I mean, the locals are nice enough, but I'm not exactly into the dive bar scene that basically accounts for the majority of the social scene in town. Plus, I doubt I'll have much luck finding a local at random that gets my geeky side with the lack of non-drinking activities around here.
  11. Haha, yeah, it sounds a little high school when I type it out. Only reason I mention it is b/c of the trend of the likes. She didn't really seem to do any "liking" for the first couple weeks since we became FB friends, but in like the last 2-3 weeks, she's liked about 70% of my posts (which are usually just humorous anecdotes or pics I take) . Again, it could very well be meaningless and I'm just over-analyzing; I just thought it was a notable realization when I looked thru my FB notifications recently.
  12. So let me preface this by saying it's been awhile since I've been on a date (probably been at least a year, if not more), so I'm really rusty when it comes to reading "the signs." Anyway, met this new girl at work a couple months back when she first started (basically just a quick intro while she was going thru her orientation), and we've run into each other a couple times at meetings or what not. Never really talked to her at length, just a quick "how are you adjusting?" or "nice, weather, huh?" superficial small talk. Then a couple weeks ago, we bumped into each other at a post-work "office" party at a co-worker's house. She might've just been drinking a little or what not, but she was being really friendly and saying stuff like "I haven't seen you at the office much lately" and "why don't we ever hang out?" I had to leave early, but I kind of just shrugged it off as just more small talk since we never really talked at leangth or hung out before. Still though, I ended up friending her on Facebook and she accepted, and since then, nearly everytime I've posted something, she'll "like" it. Fast forward to about a week or so ago, and I bump into her at work again and we got to talking. Again, she kinda said something along the lines of "why don't I see you out more [like with our other coworkers]?" so I kinda reflexively just responded with like, "yeah, we should hang out sometime" and I asked for her number (which to be honest, I didnt think was a big thing, since the intra-office directory lists all our cell numbers and I think I've called her once just for a work-related issue). Then just before this last weekend, I decided to text her about getting some coffee. Unfortunately, she said she had to go out of town to see her parents, but that she'd take a raincheck. Since then, we've been texting each other a bit (sometimes I'll initiate, and other times it's her). Again, mainly superficial stuff like "I ate at this really nice restaurant when I went home" or "this meeting is so boring." Anyway, given how long it's been since I've been in "dating mode" [work seriously sucks up nearly all of my time and energy], I just want to get a third person perspective on this. Do y'all think she's actually interested in me, or just being nice? I've been in similar situations in the past, but the girl would just want to be friends, so that's partly why I'm confused. I don't really know her, so I can't say how compatible we'd be, but I'd definitely be more interested in a possibly-romantic relationship. How should I go about making that clear without actually being too brash/forward? Last thing I want to do is scare her off and possibly have that leak into the office gossip pool and make things awkward at work, but I also don't want her to think I want to be "just friends." I plan on asking her out again this weekend. She seems to be somewhat of a foodie, so I wanted to ask her to dinner this time versus just coffee, but I don't know. Any tips? Any conversation topics y'all recommend I try to get into? topics to avoid? other potential date location ideas? Thanks for the help! TL;dr - It's been so long since I had a date that I can't tell if a girl likes me or if I'm reading too much into it. Date ideas/conversation topics?
  13. The Disney one looks incomplete. Maybe I'm just drawing from my memory of the classic design, but it's just lacking a bunch of the towers/spires of the original. I understand you might be trying to simplify it, but the original, to me, is so iconic it's hard to not see yours as incomplete. As far as the UA one, I'm sorry to say, but in between the color scheme and the letter combination, it looks more like a LA Kings alternate. If you didn't say it was United Artists, I would've read it as just LA.
  14. I actually never liked it when they did it. I always thought it was lazy to have them in their regular jerseys. If anything, I wish they'd not only go with the same conference-based uniforms, but do like they did in the past, and made anyone who wore the same number to pick a new one. I remember in the early 90s you'd see some All Stars with different numbers just for the ASG b/c someone else got seniority or what not.
  15. It's like they're not even trying with all these new d-league team logos. They need more pride in their logo designs and hire like an outside firm like a bunch of MiLB teams seem to be doing.